Ask Brian: Short Haired Girls

Have you ever wanted to know what guys think about women’s clothing?  Mike gives his expert opinion and answers your most burning questions!


I have short hair but I know that guys love women with long hair. Will a guy still find me attractive is my hair is at my chin or shorter?”


Guys do love women with long hair, but they also love women with short hair.  I’ve dated both, and personally, I’ve never used hair length as a gauge to whether a woman is more or less attractive.  I do admit however, that certain women look more attractive with longer or shorter hair, based within the context of their overall shape and fashion.  Since hair length is dependent on hairstyle, I find it useful to discuss hairstyle as a whole to answer the question of length.  Simply put, I find that hairstyle is more of an anchor statement to a woman’s fashion.  That is, since it is a more lasting (and often more expensive) feature to a woman’s fashion, hairstyle will more likely determine which clothing and makeup are used to convey the overall statement.  And the overall statement is what the guys are really paying attention to.

As with all other fashion elements, you should first determine what you can do with what you have before you can decide on what you want.  I mentioned before in my previous discussion on makeup that your face is your canvas.  As such, it must be suitably framed.  By suitably, I mean that a woman’s hair should work with her face to suit her purposes.  A rounder face with longer hair may have the same effect of putting a wallet-size photo in a portrait-sized frame.  In contrast, a longer, ovular face with shorter hair may have the effect of the painting sticking out over the frame’s edges.  Once you’ve decided what range of length your hair will most complement your face, you can then consider other elements on your way to the stylist.

The first element is perception.  As guys, we recognize that a hair’s length can be perceptive.  For example; if the hair is long, but tightly curled, worn in a pony-tail, or worn ‘up’ (as at an elegant dinner) it may actually look shorter, but men will recognize the difference and find the change intriguing.  So if your gentleman enjoys shorter hair on you and you don’t want it cut, explore a styling option before breaking out the scissors.  If your man enjoys longer hair, and you like to keep it short, then let it grow a little (maybe a quarter of an inch), then change your hairstyle.  He will probably enjoy the new look, and you can still keep your shorter hair.  Then when it’s a little longer, have it cut and change the style again (trust me, we’ll never notice the difference in length if the style keeps changing).

Another element is compensation.  One of the benefits to overall beauty is the ability to compensate weaker features with stronger ones.  If the woman believes her man desires a length of hair she currently doesn’t have, then she can compensate with makeup or clothing designed to draw attention away from her hair.  If the woman has an acute fashion sense, she is already wearing clothes which accessorize and compliment her curves, and already wearing makeup designed to engage the viewer’s attention.  Once properly entranced, most men will enjoy their lady’s company regardless of her hair’s length.

Context is also a useful element to consider.  A hair’s length is less important to how its style suits the lady’s activity.  For example, putting your hair up into a pony-tail is going to look great to your longhair-loving gentleman at the neighborhood picnic or softball game, but is going to look very different at his (or your) client’s cocktail party.  Also, the same guy who picked you up at the local rave last night isn’t going to be as excited about your short, hot-pink spikes at his brother’s wine-tasting the following afternoon.

Guys like variety, cleverness, versatility, and resourcefulness.  Your hair can reveal all of these traits in you.  Talk often with your stylist, and avoid falling into a single-style rut.  Show him – indeed challenge him – with how creative you can be with your hair from time to time.  Nikki’s changed her own hair many times, and I’ve never seen anything I didn’t like.

~ Brian E. Shefveland, Associate Editor


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