As I hedonist first, and everything else second, I am always in pursuit of ways in which my life can be better and more pleasurable. This of course, includes, but is not limited to, my sex life. While I do admit that there is certain gentle pleasure in vanilla sex, you know, the kind without any kinkiness and which includes tenderness, I find that it can often be dull, and that is why I never shy away from engaging sex toys in my sexual escapades. I will try anything once, and while I am aware that there is still a stigma when it comes to using sexual toys, especially when it comes to men using them, I believe that it is high time this taboo is shattered. The sexual revolution happened long ago, but it appears that we still have a lot to learn, so kick your inhibitions to the curb, and give something new a try, trust me, I speak from personal experience, and your life will be all the more exciting for it. So, without further ado, let’s examine some of the best sex toys and ways in which they can improve bedroom life.
When you hear the word vibrator, your mind instantly goes to the pleasure of women; you have this preconceived notion that it only works for females. Well, you are in the wrong, because vibrators very much fall into the category of men’s sex toys, and every guy, whether gay or straight should try and see what I am talking about. The best kind for men is the pocket We Vibe vibrator, and it can be used in more ways than one. For example, when receiving oral sex, have your partner roll the pocket vibrator up and down the underside of your shaft while performing oral sex – the sensation is at least ten times better. The vibrator also works great when adding some low level vibrations on and around the anus while your genitals are being stimulated. It is bound to get your arousal levels through the roof!
Lord of the Ring
If you are not familiar with the cock ring, it is time to get some information. A vibrating cock ring is essentially a rubbery piece of stretchy plastic that stretches around your penis with a vibrator attached to the side of it. What does it do? Well, it makes your penis vibrate, which first and foremost can be highly pleasurable for your partner during penetrative sex, but it is also an incredible stimulus for you. Once you try it, you will never go back, and neither will your partner, because this little ring guarantees mind-blowing and sure-thing orgasms – and who couldn’t use more earth-shattering orgasms in their life?
Plug It In
One of my absolute favorites is the butt plug, and everyone should know more about it, it is just too good not to share (not literally though). Your anus is, believe it or not, one of your most important erogenous zones, and it is highly sensitive (and receptive of pleasurable stimuli). Before deciding to try one, you might want to get all the information possible, on proper materials, as they are made from different ones, and how to use them, especially if you haven’t done it before. Start with small ones, be gentle (or have your partner be gentle), use lubrication and enjoy the ride.
Safe and Sound
Before buying a sex toy, make sure you gather all the necessary info on the manufacturer, the quality of materials and safety measures. Some of the basics are that you should, by no means, share your toys, as this is unhygienic and potentially dangerous for your health. Learn the proper way to clean and your toys, depending on the material and whether they are battery-operated or not. Make sure to experiment and have as much fun with them – they are called toys after all, but always make sure you are being safe, with toys and sex in general.
~ Peter Minkoff, Associate Editor